Monday, December 17, 2018

Even More Conflict Resolution Tips for Divorcing Couples

Even More Conflict Resolution Tips for Divorcing Couples
One thing I have learned from my more than 24 years of mediating is that there is always more to learn.
My 2005 article on conflict resolution tips included the following tips:
1. Conduct a conflict self-assessment (i.e.- take your temperature as it relates to conflict).
2. Normalize conflict (i.e.: conflict happens every day).
3. Conflict is an opportunity.
4. Listen, and
5. Think about what you would like the process to look like when you look back on it years from now.

See the full article at:

Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Tips for Preparing a Short Form Rule 401 Financial Statement-Frequently Asked Questions

1.  Do both parties need to fill out a financial statement?  Yes. Both parties must fill out the financial statement.  People often ask if they can simply fill out one financial statement if they agree.  The answer is a definitive no.  Whether parties have an agreement or not, they each must fill out the financial statement. The reasons for this are discussed further below.

Monday, October 29, 2018

What Should You Ask Your Mediator at the First Session?

At my initial free consultations, I usually start by giving potential clients an overview of the mediation process, a little bit of background about me and my philosophy about family law and mediation. At some point I will turn to the clients and ask if they have any questions.  I am often surprised that prospective clients have no questions.  It could be that I have done such a comprehensive and fantastic job explaining the process that they truly feel they have all the information they need.  I don’t really think that is it though. Maybe they have already done all the research they need. Sometimes I think that the process is so overwhelming that clients may simply be distracted and not know what to ask.  For most people it is their first time divorcing and they do not know where to start.  Finally, sometimes clients have been referred by people, they are not shopping around and have come in to the initial session knowing that they plan to hire me. Sometimes, in those situation, clients save their questions for after we officially get started.

Wednesday, October 10, 2018

Even More Conflict Resolution Tips

        It’s hard to believe that I wrote the first in this series called Conflict Resolution Tips for Divorcing Couples in 2005.  More Conflict Resolution Tips was written in 2013.

Thursday, February 8, 2018

New Tax Law and its Impact on Divorce

The new tax bill passed by Congress has a number of significant changes which affect divorcing couples.  I am including a link to an article which describes some of these changes.

It can be found at: